Six months of one-on-one coaching.
One-on-one coaching for men who are doing well by most measures and can't shake the sense that something's missing, at work, at home, in a relationship, or in how they talk to themselves.
We meet an hour a week, by video or phone. The work is two things: catching your reaction while it's happening, and repairing faster when you miss, with your family and with your team. We measure it at the start, the middle and the end.
The first step is one 75-minute session for $297. If we both see a fit, it comes off the price of the six months.
Not ready for that? Take the free four-minute quiz, or tell me where you are. I read every one myself.
- You own or lead something, and it depends on you more than it should.
- You get home and you're still on the call, in your head if not on the phone.
- A room goes quiet when you walk in, at work or at home, and you've started to notice.
- You hit a number you chased for years and felt mostly tired.
- You want someone to tell you what he sees, every week, and to measure whether anything changes.
- You want to be reassured more than you want to hear what I see.
- You're in crisis. A therapist or doctor is the right first call, and there's no shame in it.
- Someone else is sending you and you don't want to come.
- You'd rather work alone, at your own pace. The books, or The Better Father if you're a father, may suit you better.
Numbers you can compare, and one change you chose.
I can't promise how your marriage or your business will turn out, and nobody honest can. Here is what you'll be holding after six months, so you can judge for yourself what changed.
Three scorecards, side by side
Weeks 0, 13 and 26: how often you reacted in a way you regretted, how often you caught it while it was happening, and how many evenings you were fully present at home.
Your come-back time, start and finish
How long it took to make an honest repair after a miss in month two, and how long it takes in month six.
One change you chose, and your verdict on it
Something at home or at work you pick in month one, like home by six four nights a week, or one manager who owns the Friday numbers without you. Done, partly done or not done; you judge it.
What three people say
Your wife, someone who works for you and a friend answer the same short questions at the start and the end, including how easy it is to tell you something you don't want to hear.
A plan that's yours
One page in your own words, and a plan for the days it slips, so it doesn't depend on our sessions.
The Blind-Spot Review, $297
Seventy-five minutes, one-on-one. Bring the decision you're stuck on; we look for the question under it, and you leave with one next step, whether or not we go on. What happens in it →
A straight answer on fit
In the last fifteen minutes we decide together whether six months makes sense. If it does, I'll lay out how it works and the price, and the $297 comes off it. If it doesn't, I'll say so and point you to what would help.
Six months
A written agreement, a standing weekly hour, a daily practice, and a scorecard at the start, the middle and the end.
Daniel Walker
25 years in business; 5 years in law enforcement with the sheriff's office; hundreds of men coached one-on-one; author of The Accountable Life and Nobody's Watching. After building a business that ran on me, I found I hadn't developed one employee, the business was just me doing the work, and I wasn't close to my wife or my children. What I coach is the method I wrote the books about, and the one I used to change that.
“Daniel makes you think in ways most people don't — almost a paradigm shift. His questions make you look at your own mind, your own thought patterns. And then they change.”
“Conversations with him are a breath of fresh air — inspiring, and hard in the right way. They make me look at the “old” me, the one stuck in his own disservice to himself and his family. I love the journey I'm on now.”
From men Daniel has coached, in their own words, used with permission.
Twenty-six weekly sessions, in the order we work through the method.
Every week follows the same shape: your week, one moment slowed down, the focus, and the practice you'll do before we talk again. The focus moves through the method like this.
See it
Catching the reaction while it's happening, not only afterwards.
Notice what moves first (the jaw, the chest, the grip on the phone), name it in three words before you answer, and trace where the reaction came from. You choose the one real change you'll measure.
Tell the truth
What happened, and the story you added on top.
Separate what a camera would have caught from what you decided it meant. List only the part that's yours to move, without blaming them or yourself. Start logging how long it takes you to make things right after a miss.
Choose ahead
Who you'll be before the hard moment arrives.
Pick three values, each tied to a person you respect. Score the six parts of your life (fitness, family, money, friends, fun, and faith or whatever grounds you) and name what pulls you off course. Week 13: we measure everything again.
Home
Where it's hardest and matters most.
The conversation you've been avoiding, seeing your wife more generously than the story you've been telling about her, what the kids are learning from you, and apologizing without the explanation attached.
Work
Leading before authority, and a business that needs you less.
Walking into a room steady instead of scanning for problems, how you treat people who can't do anything for you, handing off one thing only you do, and developing one person.
Make it hold
Tired days, bad news, and the end of the program.
A plan for the days it slips, two or three men who'll hold you to it, a one-page plan in your own words, and the final review against where you started.
26 private sessions
One hour a week, same time each week, by video or phone. Yours alone.
A daily practice
Five to ten minutes between sessions, chosen by you each week. This is how the work carries into your week.
Messages between sessions
When a moment is worth talking about, send it. Answered within a working day.
Feedback from three people near you
Optional, anonymous input from your wife, someone who works for you, and a friend, at the start and the end. Themes only, never names.
One real change
One measurable change at home or at work, chosen in month one, reviewed at months three and six.
Measured three times
A short scorecard at the start, the middle and the end, so you can see what changed instead of guessing.
Already working with a therapist, a coach or a peer group? Good. Here's how this fits alongside them.
How much does it cost?
The first session is $297. If we both think six months would help, I'll go through the price at the end of that session. It's paid up front or in monthly payments, and the $297 comes off it. If we don't go on, the $297 is all you've spent.
What happens in the first session?
It's the Blind-Spot Review: seventy-five minutes, one-on-one. Bring the decision you're stuck on. We look for the question under it, and you leave with one next step, written by you. In the last fifteen minutes we talk about whether six months makes sense. If it doesn't, I'll say so and point you to what would help.
Why six months?
It's long enough to see the reaction, trace it, replace it, and practice the replacement until it holds on a bad day, and to measure it three times along the way.
How much time does it take?
One hour a week for the session, and five to ten minutes a day of practice. It's designed to fit a full life, not replace it.
Is it in person?
Sessions are by video or phone, wherever you can talk privately. Not in the car between meetings.
Is this therapy?
No. It's one-on-one coaching. If something clinical comes up, we pause and I'll help you find the right professional; your remaining sessions wait for you.
Does my wife have to be involved?
No. With your permission she can answer a short anonymous form at the start and the end. It shows you how things land on the person closest to you.
What about faith?
Faith is part of how my change happened. It's welcome in our conversations if it matters to you, and never required.
What if it isn't working?
We measure at week 13: the scorecard again, your come-back times and the one change you chose. If it isn't moving, I'll tell you, and we either change the approach or agree to stop. Payments aren't refunded: the $297 pays for the first session itself, and the six months are set out in a written agreement you read before you sign.
Is it confidential?
Yes. What you say stays between us, within the legal and safety limits in our written agreement.